I'm not trying to start an argument, but nobody has a "right" to my money without my permission. If somebody is in need and I want to help I will. I don't want the government deciding for me who is in need. For example, a local guy has a pregnant girlfriend. He is a part time pizza delivery guy. I offered him work but he said he would have to get up too early, he would rather sleep late. The girl said she would work sometimes if the hours are short. We will all pay for the baby whether we want to or not. Should they get a check from us? As far as I'm concerned, they can starve and have the baby in the backyard.
No real arguements starting here. I am just stating the fact that there are two extreme thoughts on this. I think our elected officials should find some middle ground here but I highly doubt the two sides can come together. The middle ground should be having a welfare system that is a temporary means to help those truely in need, gives them enough to survive, help them get over their reason for being on welfare, and return them back to productive members of society. The system needs to weed out the lazy and the people looking for an easy road. It should reward people that can get themselves off the system. It should penalize those that won't get themselves off the system. Recipiants need to be grateful that they are getting help instead of complaining that they are not getting enough.
As far as your example that is very common today with kids. I even know examples where a guy with a good paying job had a pregnant girlfriend but they did not get married because she continued to received assistance. His girlfriend was from a fairly well off family. She went to college and probably got some aid there as well. If there was no help, they would not starve.
The family unit and morals are distroyed in this country. The right is making a big thing about gay marriage distroying the family unit. The truth is kids today, especially in poorer and urban schools don't understand the traditional family. Walk into just about any school in this country and you will find very few kids that have married parents that are actually there biological parents.
It is what you learn, after you know it all, that counts.